Friendship
June 28, 2008 at 9:33 pm | In Uncategorized | Leave a CommentTags: acquaintence, associate, Friends, friendship, know of
Today, I have been thinking about friendship and the way that life is. See I know a lot of people. Some are people that I have know for many years and some are people that I have met over the course of the last few years. One thing is the same though. For me to call someone a friend is an important step. I believe that relationships regardless of friendship or romance go through the same motions.
1. Know of- This is a person you know of. You may not know much of anything about them.
2. Acquaintence- Someone you know in a general sense. This is like some one you went to high school with but never really talked.
3. Associate- This is where I believe most friendships actually falls. Its like the people at work. Yea, they know things about each other and they may even share a drink at the end of the day but they can’t be called a friend.
4. Friend- SOmeone who you know has your back. They will defend you, they are loyal, they don’t dump you just becuse they think there is something better.
5. Friends that are pretty much family- This is a person who for all rights and purposes is family. If you kill someone they are going to bring the chainsaw and the trash bags. They will tell you when you have messed up and still help you clean up the mess. They love you too much to see you in a bad situation.
This to me, breaks friendship down. Too many people don’t take the time to see if a person had pure intentions. Too many people allow judgemental braggards in to their lives to take up the aura that they possess. Put people in the right catergory and you know just how to deal with them.
A random rant about….
June 24, 2008 at 2:09 am | In Uncategorized | Leave a CommentThis is a rant about something that bothers me. I post on many different message boards from Cake baking, to parenting, to hair care (Nappturality.com is a lovely website for natural black hair care). The thing that bugs me is the way that some people just blatantly ignore you. I guess for me, I would rather a person just said, “Hey I don’t like you, that is why I ignore you” It is so blatantly obvious that this person is ignoring me. This one screenname always does this. I wonder if I should say something but I don’t think it will go over well. So I will just continue to just be ignored. But when I notice it, I will def. write about it here.
“Imus” ask a question
June 24, 2008 at 1:59 am | In Uncategorized | Leave a CommentTags: Blacks, Don Imus, Racism
Today, I was reading about sports as I frequently do as a fan, and ran across some comments by Don Imus. Now while I expect nothing less from him, the comments on this article really bother me the most.
Now I understand the thought that Blacks while 17% of the population commit 60% of the crimes but that is leaving out a giant piece of this puzzle. How many Whites are not charged with crimes they commited and how many Blacks are charged wrongfully. I believe that once you take that in to account then the numbers would be significantly different. We live in a racist country. As much as we would like to believe otherwise, thats not a reality. Now I could go on a tangent and discuss how this racist behavior truly prepetuates the crime because it takes the opportunities away from people when you don’t give people jobs because of their skin color etc. Like now, how much has crime and suicide in the White community gone up since they have had to deal with the current recession? That would be something to look at. Now this is not to make excuses because of the actions of dumbasses but it is to say that we need to look at this more objectively without the natural, inferiority of blacks filter on.
So after much soul searching, I have come to a conclusion that while it may seem controversal is my opinon. That is that Integration, while in therory great, was bad for the Black community. It was like putting a band aid on a Gun shot wound. See, you changed the things that Blacks could have with out dealing with the underlying issue of people believing that Blacks are inferior.
Confessions of an Anti-hair person
June 17, 2008 at 1:49 pm | In Uncategorized | 1 CommentTags: combing, disdain, family, hair
I am Anti Hair. Now that isn’t to say I shave everything including my eyebrows off but it is to say that I HATE COMBING HAIR. See I have this kinky, nappy hair that while I absolutely adore it, I hate doing it. But lets be honest here, even if I had bone strait never kinky, easy as pie to comb hair, it still wouldn’t deter my disdain for all things hair related. So in an effort to minimize my work, I get my hair braided. This is a lovely idea in theory but practice is another thing. I HATE it. I think God was laughing as he gave me a daughter. Then the funny thing is that this is an inherited affliction. Why you ask? My mother HATES combing hair too, but she had 2 daughters. So any given year, my mom, sis or I have cut our hair to an inch all the way around in an effort to rid ourselves of the hair crisis. It hasn’t worked yet. And here is something for irony…… My brothers hair is so long it is to the middle of his back. Talk about some backward stuff.
That time of year
June 17, 2008 at 2:02 am | In Uncategorized | Leave a CommentTags: angel, children, CJ, death, family, Rachel
Anyone that knows me knows that from the middle of June until the middle of August is a tough time in life. This year I see that things have gotten better but there is still quite a bit of pain. Its like a surgery scar, even though it heals sometimes there is still pain. Todays pain came from watching Jon and Kate plus 8. Watching those children interact makes me miss CJ. I know that he is still in my heart but I miss his physical presence. I won’t dwell on the loss here but I will say, I believe that Rachel misses him too. To lose your child is a terrible experience I wouldn’t wish on anyone but I thank God for the eight days I was blessed with the prescense of CJ in my life. CJ is my families Guardian angel. And if I can’t have him physically here, I am happy to have him as my angel.
Tricked, hoodwinked, bamboozled
June 16, 2008 at 10:20 pm | In Uncategorized | Leave a CommentTags: A Baby Story, children, Drinking, parenting, Rachel, sitcoms
Before you have kids, you see all those TV shows like A Baby story and shows like Full House, and other fictional sitcoms, and you believe that this is what having kids is all about. They show you the perfect pregnancy, with the perfect little child who grows up to be the perfect young adult. You think, wow, I can’t wait until my life is like that. So, today I have been hanging out at the house with a two year old who has decided that being resonable is something that can be accomplished another day. As I look at my disaster area of a house, I realize that while I LOVE my daughter and wouldn’t trade her in for the world, I realize why I DID NOT want children. I have been feeling the urge to be selfish lately but I attribute that to the change in weather. Or maybe it is the fact that my child thinks that every thing is supposed to be her way. And God forbid something isn’t exactly her way. The insanity that I survive everyday is cause for concern. Then I talk to other parents of 2 almost 3 year olds and they all tell me the same thing…………………………………………………………………… They are ALL like this in some respect. Well I say Fuck that, why the hell would I want to do this again. And now as she gets older the less I want to. Shoot, my little family of three may be complete. Now I guess I am going to go get me a glass of wine to make it through the rest of the night.
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